How to know when it's worth and when it's not [ Relationships ]

I know I"m speaking this from my own knowledge based on love,dating and relationships and honestly it's not that much experience but I've seen, I've observed and I'll try to relate as much as I can to my own personal experience about this topic but for those out there, who is experiencing such dilemma at the moment. Hope this helps.

Love is a strong feeling, it's hard to pull away once you're in it. So make sure it's worth every minute, every fight,every argument and every effort that you both make.

I know what it's like to feel the connection, a connection you have with that special someone that you don't want to lose, the connection that you think 'i'll do what it takes' because it means that much to you. It could be like this picture below.. 

The sun setting by the sea, filling the sky with amber lights balancing out with the dark navy blue of the sea to give that perfect scenery to end the day with. 

aka: 

#1  It's worth saving if : Balance and support is provided in both partners in the relationship. Yes there's fight,arguements and etc but it comes down to how well you trust each other and how well your communication is with each other. If you two fit each other, despite the fights and you both deeply inside 'WANT' this to work , obviously - GO for it!

It's NOT worth saving if: You're putting all the effort and the scales have tipped. You can notice this through efforts being made. Trust me, if you can see it now, meaning it's getting more and more obvious then it's time to talk before it accumulates.

 That's just the start. Once the 'sweetheart-lovey-dovey' stage passes, there is more to consider in a relationship.

There will be challenges to face definitely in a relationship. Each and everyone of us have our own wants and needs and etc, its all about compromising at the end of the day. Just like this picture signifies the uphill battle of the cable car to propel through the wires to bring people from Destination A - B. 

#2 If it's worth it: When there's a situation where both partners want different things, it all comes down to how much can you give/take and of course both must balance out in some way. If you think, you've been doing that and you both get through things/situations smoothly in the past - It is WORTH.

If its NOT worth it : When its obviously, fight after fight after fight and it doesn't get solve and one problem leads to another [ No brainer , end it! ]

I know being in a relationship, having someone always there for you, having someone to have your back, who looks up to you, who admires you and etc - feels good! It makes everything you see so much clearer, happier and the world becomes a WAY nicer place to live, doesn't it? 

Just like those pictures above, you could just 'stare' at it the whole day. Just like they say, when you're in love with someone, your mind mentally choose to ignore the flaws or adapt to it. 

#3 If its worth it: With everything going so well between the two of you, the next question to ask is: Is there any future or is there any forward step towards this relationship? Not too think too far into the future to scare off your partner but obviously, being in a relationship is like an investment, you want to know that it's worth your time & effort, not just some random 'wasting-time' fling - life is too short to waste time people! So yes, ask yourself this.. is it going somewhere? If mostly yes, then stick to it. 

If its NOT worth it : Obviously vice versa of that. When suddenly there's no purpose, or there's no freaking future with your partner either through different wants or you just basically don't see a future with him/her. Now.. some people would opt for a casual relationship, if you're that kind of person and you're strong enough to handle it, by all means go ahead. If not, and you're just waiting around hoping things will turn to your favour [ Depends on what factor - if its something "compromisable" then it's worth discussing with your partner, if not - obviously it's not going to change over time]. 

Yes I finally know the wonders of being in a relationship especially the one where you're so into it that you just don't want to leave, the one where it's all soo sweet and etc. Remember, there's no PERFECT in everything that we do,see and have in this world. 

 Even nature have its flaws .. any good thing can turn bad instantly, just like a relationship. What you see in movies are planned/scripted. There's no relationship like a fairytale WITHOUT any fights/arguements and disagreements. If you love your partner enough, those mishaps should be part of your journey rather than let it be the thing to end such journey [ if you catch my drift ]

Now that we know that perfection does not exist , it all comes down to what makes you happy at the end of the day. Are in you a relationship that makes you feel safe/secure/and both happy and respected? If yes to ALL those, why are you going against it? 

Yes there's obviously difficulty when friends or family don't accept, and etc - but they're not the one who is in THE relationship, you are. So why should it bother them? If your friends/family really care for your happiness, so long you're happy - they should be too. If not, maybe you should reconsider your circle of friends and family wise - well.. maybe its worth having a chat to discuss and explain it to them how much it means to you and etc . 

No one likes to be left alone , and everyone chase for happiness in this world. Be it opposite ends,long distance, different race/culture, what the heck .. let it be .. totally OPPOSITE to everything you ever thought your partner will be like = if you're happy, let it be. 

No point chasing an empty shadow that doesn't exist. In reality, love stories are all about fighting the challenges TOGETHER side by side , and conquering the world TOGETHER as one while adapting and accepting each other's personality/past and their own life stories. That's the beauty of love / relationship in reality. 

If you're hoping for someone to sweep you off your feet, treat you like a queen or give you romance all the way through - yes its nice but how long can all that 'glamour' last? Just like a holiday, it's nice being there on a short term basis , after a weeek when it's time to leave, the world goes back to everyday life . 

So by relating that to your love life, if you can love the person you're with now in their worst and still find them attractive and still choosing him/her to be with every day of your life and cant seem to see yourself settling with any other - It is WORTH every fight, every argument, every disagreement. 

I realize relationships with people that you truly love definitely will make a world a better place, so yes.. choose wisely who to spend your days/hours/minutes with. And listen to your gut when in doubt. I know it sounds deep but I believe, "if it's meant to be, it'll be" . 

It's tough I know, making such decision so I wish you luck. I'll let you in on a secret .

Whichever path you choose now to take, both will work out fine sooner or later. Trust in that. :) 

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There you go, I hope this post helped you in some way. It's one of the decisions you need to make on your own and its one that will determine your next step in life. Be fearless, Do what you heart wants and Never settle for anything less of what you deserve. 

---Till then, catch you next time,

G. --