How to get over someone?

Hello readers,

• Just got out of a great relationship?
• Couldn't find any ways to 'hate' or 'to break free' from attachments because you still have feelings for them?
• Asking yourself, 'WHY' instead of accepting what it really is.
• Feeling the whole 'depressive' state and just wanting to shut the world out?
• Having no appetite or no mood for any social contact? 
• And you feel like you're useless, unlovable & you deserve to be in love?

Well, welcome to my world.

At the moment.

I figured the best way to help, is to ability to relate.

Well, for me... I never thought I'd go through such pain from a heartbreak. Before this, I've seen movies,posts,articles about heartbreaks and I always thought, 'nahh, it's just another heartbreak - get a grip with your life and you'll be fine' 

till I had to experience it myself.

Ever been in a situation where being apart is the only solution? that no matter how much love you have for each other, and no matter how good you both were together - it just wasn't enough to keep you both together?

I've been there. I know the pain. 

It will feel like it hurts forever, the ache, the pounding, the numbness that you feel. It's common, and it's familiar. You may feel like you're the only one, you may even question if you could ever fall in love again, and you will feel even more alone than ever... but trust me,

'What you feel now, is literally WHAT YOU ARE FEELING NOW. Feelings change, feelings grow, and feelings always get better. It may seem like it's forever, and I know it's hard to believe this - but it's won't be like this forever. '

My advice: It will pass, not now , not in 10 days but just keep holding on. Just take it a day at a time, focus on your good side , focus on building your life, set new accomplishments, set new goals - set up a new life for yourself & create a new journey.

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Here's 5 ways that actually helped me:

a) Analyze what the breakup has done to you personally :- Instead of constant damaging yourself from the breakup, it's time to heal.. you can't heal if you're cutting yourself up. So, have a chill pill, and analyze your thoughts about the breakup and the person you were once with. When you can come to terms with that 'end' and know that there is nothing else you can do to change their mind, that's the 1st step done - accept it.

b) Cut off contacts :- I know its a whole lot easier said than done especially when you keep hoping that there could be a chance , still. Well, if you really want to move on and stop being in this 'hurt' cycle over and over again, you need to get up and fight it. If its meant to be, he'll come back.. if not, be glad it ended and just keep moving forward to better days ahead. 

It's a risk to take but sometimes you've got to let go and see whether they miss you. If not, then you'll know the truth. By cutting off contacts, give you more space and more freedom to be at your true self without any distraction or interference - you can finally heal comfortably. 

c)All you need is yourself :- Sometimes not everyone of us, have friends & family who support us in such deep times, sometimes..you're all you have and you've got to hold on to that. Don't give up on yourself just because everyone else didn't believe in you. You loved that person for a reason, you know yourself more than anyone else and you know why it truly ended, it's you that needs to come to terms with everything that happened, not them. So take time for yourself, take time to think & look deep within , take time to believe in yourself and trust that you did everything you could - that's where you'll find your true strength.

d) Give love in order to receive even more :- Just like Karma, the more good deed you do, the more great things you'll get. Its amazing when you can offer love without being asked and having them thanked you for it OR having to brighten someone else's day just by being yourself.. it gives a warm feeling to your heart, and it proves to you - that the cure to heartbreak is to love. 

e)Regenerate you - Its the perfect time, to re-build, to add on skills , experience and etc to your life story. It's time to improve your life status, it's time to do things FOR YOU. Ignore what others have to say, and just go with your gut and do what you've always wanted to do . It may be something insignificant or it could be a life changing event, whatever it is - do it because it makes you feel YOU & alive. Clearly, you deserve it too! =) 

With those points, I hope I could help. It was what made me who I am today, I'm not the same person as I was a month ago, I'm stronger, I stand up for myself and I'm learning to respect and love myself like I never did before and all that, thanks to having to go through hell from losing something I thought was forever. 

Stay hopeful,

G.