Why you should move on?

Hey, when it comes to relationships, I always have two sides to look at it. One is thinking that 'I' could be the exception to the rule and Two being 'love like that doesn't exist in this world'.

Two opposing thoughts & ways of looking at love. Sometimes I wonder which is true and sometimes all I really need is a splash of cold water or a slap to my face to wake me up from this blur dream.

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Now, the title today is 'why you should move on' and I'm sure you are reading this because you think you should stick around and hope it'll get better and you'll both be back together. Well, I'm not going to tell you it's a bad idea but I will tell you, are you sure that this is the love story of your life that you'll be so proud to tell other people (i.e: your children) next time?

I mean, think of it.... the power to write a love story YOUR love story is in your hands , is this it ? is this what your gut feeling is telling you to do? or is it something that you want to be simply because you don't want to be left alone?

The answer lies within you.
But I'll just point out these 3 questions for you to think about.

•  Is he putting effort? [ Is he actually contacting you first to check up on you, does he care enough like he say he is by caring how you actually feel, does he remember the little things that makes you happy  or has he suddenly 'forgotten' it all now?]
• Does he still care? [ Do you still keep in contact? Do you still feel like he's there whenever you need him to be? Does he still bother to check up on how you are doing even at this current situation?]
• Would you settle for him & no one else ? [Considering that now, I'm guessing you've argue & currently 'taking a break', would you go back to him even after he has made you feel left out? Would you still go back to him if he abandoned you like this and who knows if he won't do it again?]

I don't mean to be harsh but it's reality, guys. 

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So if you've answered NO to most of it above, here's why you should consider moving on and stop looking back.

1. Put yourself back on the hunt : Face the facts, if he doesn't want you back, clearly it's never going to work... you've got to realize it and you've got to do what it takes, to make yourself available once again. Ain't no one gonna like you if you're always indoors , trapped in your room.
2. You won't feel stuck. When he moves on, and you're still pondering over the thought on getting back, think about how stupid you would feel then , when you could have achieve a lot more things with your life within that period.
3. Good attract good . The moment you let go of someone who hurts you, you let go the power of them to ever do that to you again, hence with karma - when you do good, you get the good. 
4. You can't get something new from lingering onto something old . You've got truly let it go, don't lie to yourself because only you would understand how you would feel. So if you consider letting go, I can assure you - there will be better things for you ahead. 

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HOWEVER , it all depends on the circumstances. It all depends on how long you've been together, what broke it off, and what both of you are willing to do to make it work again [ BOTH of you ]. A relationship is a mutual connection, if one person does not feel it, it would never work. 

I hope this gave you some insight. Sorry for being abrupt but I figured, it's the only way to get my point across without sugar coating it. 

Let me know if you have any questions,thoughts or queries in the comment below and I'll do my best to help,

Till then,

take care,

G.