Relationship : Signs of being friendzone

Helloo welcome back! As the title says, it's all about being in the 'friend ZONE' today. I'm sure we've all been there before - it's a bad place to be. 

Why it's bad ? 

i) It reminds you of how you're never good enough

ii) It's like wanting something you can't have.

iii) You'll never be as important as they are to you.

iv) You're willing to do everything for them but they won't for you.

v) It's worse when they're interested in someone else, you'll always be left behind.

vi) Your opinions will never matter as much.

vii) You'll always end up being hurt & they won't even realize that they are doing so.

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So how to know if you're being 'friendzoned'?

1.  They tell you 'they're always there for you' but when you need them - they never are cause they got better plans to do.
2. They flirt with you as if they have feelings for you, but when it's questioned, they change the subject or they just have 'nothing to say'.
3. The only time they talk about 'dating' is when they ask you for dating advice, how 'he/she' looks, and everything about being with another person but you.
4. When they know you're interested in them but they don't tell you that they aren't but you start noticing that they only share a general basic of what goes in their world. 
5. When you hang out , they treat other girls politely (like a gentleman) but to you, it's like 'you sort yourself out' . 
6. When you ask them if they like you - they'll tell you 'I like you but I'm just not into you' / 'I'm not into you in that kind of way'. 
7. When you get a call or a text from them , instead of them asking things about you - they asks you about what to do in situations/girly advice/ 'how to know if the girl they like , likes them'. 
8. Because they know you like them, so when they got back from a date - you ask them how it went, and they refuse to share it with you & they start shutting you out from their personal life. 
9. They'll know you'll always be there for them because you like them but to them - they'll never see you as how you want them to , no matter how much you try.
10. When you need them, they're there WHEN they are free - otherwise, it's like a 'no-reply' tone. 
11. You do everything you can , to make them see how sweet/loving/caring/genuine and THE BEST person you can be but at the end, you're ALWAYS never going to be good enough.
12. When you've bought them something or share with them something that means a lot to you - but all they can say is 'thank you' and completely change the subject without wanting to know more about it.
13. Conversations are always brief, short and never consistent .
14. When you're never included into their social outings/gatherings/hangouts but they'll tell you all about it  because you're a good listener but you'll never be invited.
15. When you finally have the courage to confess to them that you like them in the most romantic way you could think of - and all they say is 'errr..thanks?' 
16. When instead of treating you like a lady when you guys are out - he treats you like a buddy of his (like how he treats his other guy friends)
17. When it's just you and him / you and her - the mood is right, romantic lights, relaxed state of mind but all that happens is he/she suggest to do something ELSE to break the awkwardness .
18. When he/she drops you off home, instead of waiting for you to walk through your front door , he/she drives off the moment you get out the car. 
19. When you guys hang out , you get all dressed up to give a good impression but he takes it so easy & relaxed that he doesn't even put any effort to look put together.
20. Ok so he treats you like all of the above for like FOREVER and finally when you think he's starting to realize that 'she's always been there for me' & 'aww,she's so sweet' and start to like you - and you still like him like you did from the very beginning ... and so you wait...and wait.... and wait... being patient....hoping he'll feel the same way and one day - he tells you 'i need to tell you something' , he builds up the intensity and excitement only to tell you that he found a girl that looks LIKE you and is just LIKE you because you inspired him to find someone like that to spend his life with.

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IF you ever feel any way like those above,

here's one thing to do. 

SCREW IT.

I dont mean it that way hahaha but maybe it's time to let it go , instead of hold on to him/her.

My advice:

If it only makes hurt even more, you can always choose to leave. You're not born to always be there for people who don't appreciate you for you. 

Well , on the bright side - at least you tried, and now you know the truth. =] 

Sometimes, it's better knowing the hard truth than spend the rest of your life wondering.

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I hope you enjoyed reading this post,

I've been there. In fact, I've been through all 20 signs of them & I gotta say,

sometimes, you've got to learn how to let go of things that don't bring you any happiness, no matter how kind/humble/nice & sweet you are. 

Good luck & all the best,

G.