Relationship : What being SINGLE taught me

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Today's post is about being single , about the time where being single was a huge deal for me & how it changed the way I look at life now. 

 I know being single isn't something you like being and how it can mentally affect our emotions just thinking about being single & not being able to find someone to share your life with ... isn't a very nice thought to have but here's the thing : 

That's the NEGATIVE side of being single, you're forgetting about all the other positive things about it.

So I decided to write a post about my journey of being single for a serious phase in my life and how it changed me & shaped me. Hopefully, it'll make you have a different perspective about being single. =) 

•⁞› Increase self esteem & love towards myself.

There are things in life where we'll only realize or learn from tough times or when we're really alone. When we're single, we have time to focus on ourselves a lot more & allows us to shape,define ourselves in what we believe in. For example,I remember when I was single, I used to beat myself up so much for it because everyone around me had a partner and I used to blame myself that I had something wrong with me until one day I realized, I would rather be alone than to be with the wrong person. So I started to invest in myself more, started doing things I love & thing started to look better. :) as I felt happier. 

•⁞›I was enough.

I went through phases of thinking I needed someone in order to make myself happy or to make my family happy to the point I realized, NO I am capable of making myself happy despite of whether I have someone to love or not. Right then, I gained instant confidence in myself & I started to be my own partner because the truth is, you are enough. Whether you find someone to love or not, doesn't mean you're incomplete. Remember everyone have to leave you someday (either through heartbreak,death and etc) , you've got yourself till the end so making sure I found happiness within myself first was the most important thing I learnt when I was single. 

•⁞› Knowing my potential.

Being single or after getting your heart broken is a very volatile phase for you in your life. For me, it was a time I took to grow, to learn & to make myself stronger than before. Each time my heart broke was an opportunity to learn more about myself, to learn more about what I want & setting new standards to your life. Some people rush into relationships without knowing what they're into & that's where heartbreak comes before anything . By knowing who you are, what you want & what you're looking for in a relationship allows you to find the one that'll last for a lifetime. 

•⁞› To seek adventure.

Not saying that when you're in a relationship , you can't have adventure . Just that, when you're single, everything becomes an adventure. You can go out and learn how to surf without worrying what career to get into or how is it going to affect your future and etc. You have the chance of a lifetime to learn something no one can stop you. That's one of the best things I loved about being single. Yes people judge you when you're alone but then again, you have nothing to worry about because you have the freedom to what you want & how you want it. What more could you ask for? 

•⁞› Find myself.

If I wasn't that heartbroken or if I wasn't single while I was growing up, I wouldn't have learn how strong I could be, I wouldn't have learn how independent I could be & I wouldn't have learn how important the smallest thing could have meant to me. Everyone has their own lessons upon growing up & for me, the best thing I learnt when I was single was to be grateful for everyone , to appreciate every relationship/friendship I have/had & to never take anyone for granted. 

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Growing up, we all go through this phase of life where having a crush - boyfriend/girlfriend becomes a social epidemic. 

As we get older, we realize that those relationships is not about 'showing off' or being 'better' than others, it's a personal choice. 

It's about sharing your life stories with someone who cares for you just as much as you care for yourself. 

And I'm grateful for who I am today & when I look back into previous years, I can see how I've changed mentally & how I've grown.

 I'm glad I get to learn all those things about myself,

on my own & experienced it all. 

And it's great having to share all these experiences with the person you love most. 

So don't hate yourself for being single,

Take it all in because your life is about to get better . =) 

#havefaith

Stay positive,

Lots of Love,

G.