Relationship : Why finding the one is holding you back

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Welcome back!

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Alright back to the post, I'd like to say firstly, thanks for staying in touch with me & my blog. Not only does it inspire me to write more, it makes me happy knowing I'd be able to be there for people like you while helping myself too . :)

So anyways, this post was inspired by reading an article about how love holds us back. I couldn't understand it as first but the more I think about it, the more I relate myself onto it - I can see it. 

& it's funny , because I always thought love opens you to MORE so when I went through that phase of being single, I felt like I was empty. 

And so the pressure of finding 'the one' began to rise & I realize after reading that post, I created so much limits , so much boundaries & closed myself  in that made me EVEN more alone. 

That's when I realized this : 

So after that post, it inspired me to change, it inspired to live with this thought :

Instead of worrying whether you'll find the one , what would you do with your life if you knew you weren't going to find the one ? 

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 I know it sounds really negative, but think about it...

x What would you do differently?

x What would you do to make your life a happy one despite that?

x Where would you go to find happiness?

x Who will you be if you knew that whatever you sacrificed for love, it still isn't going to come to you?

NOW,

with all those thoughts in your head of what you CAN do for yourself in that scenario, here's my advice: 

DO IT.

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Here’s why  : 

1) Love shouldn't stop you from being who you are & what you want to be.

It show help make you BETTER , it doesn't define you at all.. it promotes more of who you already are. The amount of times we sacrifice our careers, our dreams, our passion just so we can be loved - I think that's not the right way to be truly happy with yourself. You should be able to do that all without love being in the decision-making process. Cause if it's true , it doesn't matter where or who you are, they'll love you for you. 

2) You will never know how far you can go in this world if you allow it to limit you.

By keeping ourself grounded to just one thing , hoping we'll find 'the one' is like sacrificing everything you want to do for something you can't control - so what's the point? I believe, no matter what you do or where you go or who you are, the right people will always find you & they'll come into your life unexpectedly so don't be afraid to that risk . 

3) It makes you insecure & worried just thinking about 'having to find the one'. 

We get so caught up in trying to find the other half that it takes away our confidence & promote our insecurities because we try our relate our past relationships with who we are now & if we're still single, we somehow think - we're losers .. well.. instead of doing all that, if we could have spent those time, building something of ourselves, trying to build our own brand - we could have gone so far now.. so if you're worried about finding love & etc, here's my theory:the more you worry about finding the one, the more you push it away. 

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So after all that realization, I decided to not worry about it anymore, whether I was going to be single or going to be in a relationship in the future - who knows what could happen but whatever it is, I want to find it in a place in my life where I'm truly happy , confident & proud of who I am & what I've achieved. So that's my story, I hope it helped inspired yours too <3

Time to let go & see where life takes me.

Stay true to you & fly high, 

G.