Relationship : The relationship with yourself.

Hey everyone,

Welcome back.

Just another post to emphasize the importance of your first & main relationship of your life , obviously before the relationship with your close ones come about . Since the day we were born, we've been attached to this body & mind to create a life that makes us happy and satisfied. Where life is full of up and downs, it's so easy to be selfless of ourselves to the point where we question 'what did we do today to feed back to our soul & body?' 

Yeah, besides basic hygiene there are plenty of ways we could show some love to our body. For example, a manicure/pedicure , a facial , massage, a nice warm bath and etc. To be honest, I find it personally hard to find time to just be with myself so I do sort of remind myself everyday to give 10-15 minutes to just do what I want to do. 

So for me, it's the little things that matters most, like having a good night sleep, having a pamper night in or just typical binge watching my TV shows till I dozed off to bed. So everyone has their own pattern of things to do that makes them feel comfortable,relaxed & chilled. Hence why the relationship with ourselves is important , because , if we're not giving our body enough love, it can't function to its best as we want it to be. 

 I mean,

We try so hard to find ourselves & find the meaning or purpose of our presence in this lifetime but truth is , the answer can be found already in all of us , it's specially made IN us. We're all different for a reason, we're all special for THAT reason. 

So here's 

4 points to WHY we should BE with ourselves in the present 

1.) It's the heart of everything

Everything else in your life can change. The only physical things that can't change is you & your body. So you're the heart of what you do everyday. If your body is tired you can't function, if you're body is hungry, your mind gets distracted. Simple theory as that, that's why you see a lot of articles or videos on why we should pamper ourselves & be kind to ourselves etc because its true, the relationship you have with yourself is should be the most honest & truthful otherwise you can never let anyone else in which will make your life very closed up. 

2.) Fix yourself before you try to fix others

It's very easy & tempting to always put other's first, especially like your family, friends and etc because they matter most to you. I understand that but remember to allocate some days for yourself too. Cause if you keep helping people while ignoring your wants & needs, you're eventually going to burn out from life, as in.. it's going you to tired you so much that you lose all sense of motivation to proceed forward. So don't forget to give yourself some love back too! 

3.) Every decision you make lies in your hands 

If you're that kind of person who blames at everything else besides yourself when something bad happens, maybe it's time to take in a new perspective particularly because if you think about it, what you think & what you do influence your decisions in your life. There's always at least 2 ways you could go [ either the optimistic side of things or pessimistic side of things ]. So being honest with yourself within, listening to that inner voice of yours is a great way to 

x Instead of running away or challenging every decision you make, learn to go with the flow

4.) To make yourself happy, you've got to be happy within

As I kept emphasizing above, the relationship with yourself is mainly about you being honest with yourself. It's about realizing your thoughts , knowing what makes you happy and what makes you sad, and trying your best to work together in the right direction. For example, have you felt where you make a decision , part of your body tells you no but your mind kind of tells you yes which makes feel stuck right in the middle? I get that too, a lot. I learnt so many times from mistakes when I don't listen to that instinct which is why I vow to myself that whenever I get that feeling in the same situation again, I'll do a major re-think of my decision. Because at the end of the day, no one knows you & your dreams more than YOU. 

So I hope this article helps you to realize that if you want to fix yourself, try fixing whats within you first. Cause if you can convince yourself to do that you're afraid to do, rather than forcing yourself to just jump right in, you'll be able to do wonders. 

So I wish you luck,

and know that ,

it takes time so be patient =) 

#learntfromexperience.

Thanks for reading, have a great day & I'll see you soon,

G.