Self Help : The independent checklist

Heyy everyone,

Welcome back!

Let's talk about being independent today, many people nowadays grow up thinking it's a bad thing when to be honest- we need to learn how to be & love ourselves first before we are able to love someone new. So unless you master independence, your relationships aren't fully fulfilled because some part of it will be relied on them providing comfort & reassurance which ie in return makes you emotionally dependent on them. 

So with that brief intro, let's get right onto the Independent Checklist. 

The moral behind being 'independent' is to be able to stand on your own & to love yourself doing so. It involves confidence, self esteem, self worth and building all that up first before allowing yourself to accept other people into your life.

The reason for that being is that, when we bring someone new into our lives and we aren't exactly confident in ourself yet, it may lead to many more problems arising ie , not having much to talk about, lack of interest, emotional attachments, dependence to jealousy which never helps any relationship. So by building independence & confidence in yourself - it makes you less reliant on the other person for your own happiness which is truly what makes every relationship a great one. 

When two independent people with separate lives come together to share one together, they have so much stories from each other's life to put on the plate & each having their views, opinions & advice - it helps build a life together that benefits both of them strongly rather than being dependent on each other. Cause what happens when one goes away ? 

For example, woman nowadays (no offence to all the guys out there) are very much strong & independent , we are fighting to be just as successful as men and so having courage to chase our dreams has become more important than looking to settle down as compared to the past. On the bright side, men nowadays are also evolving in a sense where they prefer their woman tohave a life of their own & to be able to succeed together as one. 

With that background, its the reason why confidence, self esteem, independence & courage has been strongly advertised - especially for woman nowadays. It's good to stay strong but it's even better to be able to be happy on your own. 

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Some activities to help conquer your fear of being alone:

0 Eating out alone 

Have you ever tried sitting at a cafe alone, sitting down with your cup of tea and a slice of cake, just enjoying the present. Watching people walk by around you - focusing on how each and everyone you see has their own life & how fun is it to sit & observe life goes by.

0 Watching a movie in the cinema alone

We all have different taste in movies & sometimes, not everyone is available to watch the movie you want to watch. Conquer the fear of watching a movie alone by watching your favourite movie or the one you really want to watch - either a chic flic, or a super action pack movie . Have the courage to walk in there, with your popcorn & sink in to your seat to enjoy that 1 and half hour of movie time . 

0 Travel alone.

There is no better joy of growing up than being able to afford & travel on your own to a brand new city to explore. The ability to immerse yourself & to experience the freedom of travelling to somewhere new is something no one can explain or teach you. It's one of the things that you have to experience in order to understand it. 

0 Shopping on your own.

This may seem easier than the rest to complete, but it's the chance to be with your ownself, to avoid people distracting you - or even holding you back from wanting to go into certain shops or trying out clothes you never thought you would wear. By going out shopping on your own, you've got no one to please but yourself. 

Basically , it's all about taking the time for yourself to love & nourish your soul . It's about taking time to do what you love & forgetting what other people think about it. It's about listening to your inner voice, and letting it guide you to what you feel happy most. 

So I hope this little post helps you in a way to make time for yourself to treat yourself to something you love/enjoy. By creating a life on our own, we gain more stories & things to share to others that we meet along the way, so don't be afraid to try something new & don't lose faith in yourself.

:) #loveyourself ,

 Have a good day & good luck,

G.